I
think I am reaching a whole new level of understanding what relationship is about.
Or let me put it in another way: how to deal with a relationship of two people who are so similar to each other that when they confront a difference between them- they get a problem.
It is a sort of collision which hits you like a train.. but it doesn’t hurt.
It’s more like a biblical revelation, your eyes open to something that you didn’t notice before.
It may not be as easy as you were thinking but it’s certainly worth the lesson.
People make a mistake, they find someone who is very special and they think ‘’that’s it’’.
Well, that’s what I also thought at first. I met someone who matches my idea of a man, the vision of a great partner. And all I was thinking about was how lucky I am, how the world should be jealous and that I have to hold on to that person no matter what, because ‘’that’s it’’.
Uhm.. no no no. That doesn’t work exactly that way.
When I think that way- I don’t enjoy. I just keep on hoping that it will last as long as it’s only possible, and that makes me only feel anxious. All the time my mind concentrates on considering is everything going well and if not, what should I do to improve, what should I change in myself just to keep it perfect, how to hold on.
But.. it doesn’t need to be perfect..! It has to be good, make us happy, not afraid of what will happen tomorrow. Maybe sometimes it’s better to let go of the steering wheel and see what will happen.
Don’t hesitate to tell me when you think I’m wrong, don’t be afraid to tell me that I’m saying bullshit, that it’s totally not how you think, that you don’t want something.
The worst truth is always better than the best lie.
Hard talk after midnight gave me a sleepless night. Not that I was angry, not mad, not sad, no. But I got a whole new point of view about how to handle the person I love. Believe me, I felt relieved. Maybe you will not understand my point.. At least I managed to understand, so that’s enough.
It’s an unconditional feeling, loving and being loved as a person, not as a role that you play.
Where have you been before? I realized all of that so late!
You will never be like me and I will never be you, but that’s great! That is exactly what makes life so valuable, that we are different. Even if we both like the same music, hate the same people, adore the same actress, act shy on the outside but dirty on the inside- we still differ in few things.
So don’t be sad, mad, angry, don’t go crazy if we don’t agree on something.
Very wise thing that I’ve once heard is that from 2 points of view there always comes a 3rd one.
You say you’re afraid because you never plan, I say I’m afraid because I plan too much.
Maybe we should first of all stop feeling afraid and then make a compromise.
Let’s stop planning things that should be for pleasure and let’s plan only things that we have to.
Sounds good and fair enough to me.
Don’t complicate things, please, because we are good, don’t destroy that.
Future will show what’s going to happen, but let’s live here and now, enjoy ourselves, enjoy life, take what’s the best from it.
After all those storms raging on the sea of emotions you held me tight, kept me close and even though I almost didn’t sleep I found a place to rest my head. Right there, on your shoulder, feeling overwhelmed by how beautiful can a relationship based on friendship be. Feeling safe, no matter what the future will bring. Here and now, your arms around me, the smile on my face while I fall asleep.
Thank you.
Or let me put it in another way: how to deal with a relationship of two people who are so similar to each other that when they confront a difference between them- they get a problem.
It is a sort of collision which hits you like a train.. but it doesn’t hurt.
It’s more like a biblical revelation, your eyes open to something that you didn’t notice before.
It may not be as easy as you were thinking but it’s certainly worth the lesson.
People make a mistake, they find someone who is very special and they think ‘’that’s it’’.
Well, that’s what I also thought at first. I met someone who matches my idea of a man, the vision of a great partner. And all I was thinking about was how lucky I am, how the world should be jealous and that I have to hold on to that person no matter what, because ‘’that’s it’’.
Uhm.. no no no. That doesn’t work exactly that way.
When I think that way- I don’t enjoy. I just keep on hoping that it will last as long as it’s only possible, and that makes me only feel anxious. All the time my mind concentrates on considering is everything going well and if not, what should I do to improve, what should I change in myself just to keep it perfect, how to hold on.
But.. it doesn’t need to be perfect..! It has to be good, make us happy, not afraid of what will happen tomorrow. Maybe sometimes it’s better to let go of the steering wheel and see what will happen.
Don’t hesitate to tell me when you think I’m wrong, don’t be afraid to tell me that I’m saying bullshit, that it’s totally not how you think, that you don’t want something.
The worst truth is always better than the best lie.
Hard talk after midnight gave me a sleepless night. Not that I was angry, not mad, not sad, no. But I got a whole new point of view about how to handle the person I love. Believe me, I felt relieved. Maybe you will not understand my point.. At least I managed to understand, so that’s enough.
It’s an unconditional feeling, loving and being loved as a person, not as a role that you play.
Where have you been before? I realized all of that so late!
You will never be like me and I will never be you, but that’s great! That is exactly what makes life so valuable, that we are different. Even if we both like the same music, hate the same people, adore the same actress, act shy on the outside but dirty on the inside- we still differ in few things.
So don’t be sad, mad, angry, don’t go crazy if we don’t agree on something.
Very wise thing that I’ve once heard is that from 2 points of view there always comes a 3rd one.
You say you’re afraid because you never plan, I say I’m afraid because I plan too much.
Maybe we should first of all stop feeling afraid and then make a compromise.
Let’s stop planning things that should be for pleasure and let’s plan only things that we have to.
Sounds good and fair enough to me.
Don’t complicate things, please, because we are good, don’t destroy that.
Future will show what’s going to happen, but let’s live here and now, enjoy ourselves, enjoy life, take what’s the best from it.
After all those storms raging on the sea of emotions you held me tight, kept me close and even though I almost didn’t sleep I found a place to rest my head. Right there, on your shoulder, feeling overwhelmed by how beautiful can a relationship based on friendship be. Feeling safe, no matter what the future will bring. Here and now, your arms around me, the smile on my face while I fall asleep.
Thank you.
Wow, Alicja! Amazing post, very true and put in words beautifully! That's a priceless insight you've learned. It'll take you far :)
ReplyDeleteHey Melissa! Thank you :) I hope that I can grow from that point and that it wi;; bring me only better experiences. Thanks for reading!
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